For Men Only – For Women Only {A Gabby Mom Review}

Miscommunication and misunderstandings happen in marriage. God created men and women so different that often it’s hard to figure each other out. My marriage hasn’t been exempt from these struggles. Through our rough patches we’ve devoured many marriage books and have attended many counseling sessions. So, when I sat down to read the books for this month’s review, I expected the same information that I’ve read before. Thankfully, I was pleasantly surprised!OnlyBooks_3d-300x193

For Men Only by Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn and For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn were giving to the Gabby Moms to review this month. For those of you who own older versions, they have been revised and updated. The books are small with 10 chapters or less and quite easy to read. Shaunti suggests for the husband and wife to read the book that pertains to them first, take notes in the margins, and then give it to your spouse to read. Now you both have personalized copies!

Let’s talk about For Men Only since I read that one first. What a great read! So often I don’t know why I feel a certain way or how to explain myself, yet Shaunti and Jeff have said it perfectly. They put into words what I can’t and convey it simple enough for my spouse. Some of the items covered are:

  • Why she can’t “just not think about” something that’s bothering her.
  • Why listening to her feelings is so hard for a guy, and a fix-it plan that works.
  • Why her “I do” at the altar will always mean, “do you?” and the answer that rocks her world.
  • …and more!

For Women Only has been a slower read for me because I don’t want to miss any of Shaunti’s wisdom about men. Through reading this, my eyes have been opened to how unintentionally I’ve hurt my husband because of not taking the time to understand him. Some of the items covered in this book are:

  • Why your respect means more to him than your love.
  • How he feels deep inside about his role as provider.
  • What it means for a man to be so visually “wired.”
  • …and more!

Women and men can be understood!

Great news! Lorrie Flem from Eternal Encouragement is hosting a giveaway on her blog, Randy’s Rib, from June 17th – 21st. She will be giving away the NEW DVD study (which includes: a men’s study, women’s study and couples study along with the leader guide) and a copy of For Women Only, and For Men Only books.

Make sure to, also, sign up for the free online magazine at Eternal Encouragement. It will be a blessing and encouragement to you as a wife and mother.

**I received this product for free as part of The Gabby Moms  program through Eternal Encouragement in exchange for my honest review.**

Yelling: The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure {Review – Kindle Edition} plus free book offer!

Picture this, the phone is ringing, dinner is being made, children from all over the home are calling for mommy and then it happens, the yelling begins. Frustration overcomes us all at some point and if we don’t know how to rein it in, our voices rise and we begin to yell at the most precious people in our lives.

Back in November, I reviewed Lorrie Flem’s book, “Yelling: The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure.” How refreshing it was to learn tips from Lorrie, a former yeller. Her 11-step plan is simple, yet quite effective! After struggling with yelling and reading her book, I began to seek God first and choose happiness and love. I can’t overcome it on my own, but with God’s help, my yelling has subsided.

This great book is now being offered in Kindle format and, on Tuesday July 24th ONLY, it will be FREE through Amazon.com. What a great treat to be able to get this for free! It’s a wonderful resource. So, don’t forget to mark your calendar and pick up this amazing book!

Also, Lorrie is having a facebook party that day. Go to Eternal Encouragement’s page between 2-4 pm and 8-10 pm and join in the discussion titled “To Yell or Not to Yell, That is the Question in Parenting.”

So, you might be wondering, did it work…am I cured? Well, I can’t say the yelling monster hasn’t reappeared , but I can say Lorrie’s tips have helped me rein it in. I am a work in progress and I’m thankful to Lorrie for pointing me in the right direction!

I received a complimentary copy of “Yelling, The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure” as part of The Gabby Moms  program through Eternal Encouragement in exchange for my honest review.

Encouragement for the Soul {A Gabby Mom Review}

Have you ever had one of those moments when you stop and think, what have I gotten myself into? Lately, that question has been creeping up in my mind. This month has been quite busy for me, only because my schedule has been overbooked…by me. In thinking I could handle it all, I’ve let many things slide. Can I do it all? Maybe, but can I do it all to my best ability? No, I cannot.

My deadlines are approaching and I can either sulk and be upset over my choice to over-commit or choose to push on and get through this. Well, even though I know I need to push on, I needed a little encouragement which is what I received in my email box from Eternal Encouragement. Being a Gabby Mom with Eternal Encouragement has been a blessing!

This month I chose to review Lorrie Flem’s Colorado Power Pack which includes 8 audios and 7 listening guides with the following titles: Keys to a Queenly Castle, Attitude Adjustments, Encouragement for the Weary Homeschooler, Cheerful Children and Challenging Chores, Teach so They’ll Learn, Dawdling or Diligence, Welcome Home Daddy, and Doing Enough & Fortifying the Foundation. Wow, isn’t that a lot of information! It all sounded so good that it was hard to know where to begin.

I listened to a few of the audios over the last few weeks which were excellent, but last night I decided to find encouragement for this weary homeschooler, so that’s the title I listened to. What a refreshing and encouraging audio! I can now see the finish line to my schedule for the month and I can learn what not to do from this point forward.

What are my priorities and goals? Why am I homeschooling? Lorrie suggested writing out my goals so that in those moments of despair I can be reminded of why I am homeschooling.

Am I committed to too many outside activities? My family is my utmost priority. If things are being neglected at home (housework, homeschooling, food preparation, relationships), then I have no business committing to anything outside of the home. Lorrie gave many encouraging tips and gave suggestions for being more efficient at home.

Another point is to make every moment count. Be purposeful and disciplined. For the past few weeks I have been getting up early and spending time with Jesus. I plan out at least a half hour to be in the Word and for prayer. How can I nourish my family if I’m not being nourished? How can I respond in the right way if I’m stressed and trying to do it all by myself? By getting up early, I can start my day off right. I’m refreshed and ready to take on anything that comes my way.

So, how can I stop from overcommitting? Well, for me it’s coming up with a schedule and talking about it with my husband. He’s been great with guiding me and giving me advice with my commitments. It’s okay to say no, even to the good things. When I first have control over my home, I can have the freedom to participate in other activities.

I’ve learned my lesson and am praying for discipline as my desire is to do my best in the roles God has me in – a wife, mommy, and homeschool teacher. My weariness has subsided and my sights are looking ahead to God’s path for me.

If you need encouraging, I highly recommend this audio bundle and right now you have an opportunity to win your own free bundle. Just follow this link, Encouragement: Colorado Power Pack, and fill out the form. A winner will be chosen on June 1st.

As a Gabby Mom with Eternal Encouragement I received the Colorado Power Pack in exchange for my honest review.

 

Discontent in a Homeschooler’s Life

Doesn’t the grass always seem greener on the other side?  As a homeschooling family, whether you’re a mom or a student, seeds of discontent can grow.  If those seeds are allowed to take root, weeds will sprout up with unhappiness and envy filling your family’s garden.

As a mom, I see others appearing to be so carefree.  Shopping, running, vacationing, always seeming to have free time and no care in the world.  Remember I said “appear”, because deep down, I know they have worries and cares, too.  Satan wants me to be discontent with my circumstances because he knows how powerful of an influence I have staying at home, teaching my children God’s truths.  I am raising warriors for God’s kingdom, why wouldn’t my enemy want to destroy us?  If I allow him to discourage me, I will be short with my husband and my children, wishing I could just send them into the school system or get away from everything.  When I keep my eyes focused on God, those weeds will be quickly removed and the beautiful flowers of contentment and peace will flourish.

My children are prone to looking at other people’s gardens as well.  They see other kids appearing to have more free time, going on vacations, having the newest toy or the newest clothes and they wish for all of that, too.  The weeds begin to sprout and they, too, can begin to be discontent with being schooled at home.  Talking with them, praying with them can crush the weeds before they begin to flourish.

We are all prone to looking into the lives of others and wishing our circumstances were different.  Don’t let those weeds grow in your garden.  Remove them as quickly as they sprout up.  God knows what is best for us and He will meet all of your needs; trust Him.  Hold your children, play with them, remind them of all the great things all of you can do because they are homeschooled.  Thank your husband daily for working so you can have this opportunity.  Above all, grow the seeds from God’s words into your life.  Let His words take root in your garden and the beautiful flowers of joy, peace, and contentment will begin to flourish.

Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5 (ESV)

You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Isaiah 26:3 (ESV)

 

 

Just Say No {A Gabby Mom’s Review}


Isn’t it hard to say no sometimes?  As moms we are constantly being pulled in many directions.  We pride ourselves in being expert multitaskers, but are we?  Yes, we can do many things, but can we do those things well when they are being done at the same time?  This is an area I struggle with and Lorrie Flem’s mp3, Just Say No, couldn’t have come to me at a better time.   Lorrie’s humor abounds throughout her talk and she really hits home with tips on saying no.  It’s hard to say no.  We feel guilty or fear the other person’s response.  Here are a few tips that stuck out at me.

Never say yes on the spot unless it’s in response to one of your kiddos vying for your attention.  So often, if I would take the time to look at their pretty picture or stop and play a game, then I could finish my task and their love tank would be filled (mine, too 🙂 ).  My calling is motherhood and if I am overcommitted in other areas, who suffers?  My family does.  We need to make a checklist of the valuable things in our lives and see what really matters.  Too much of a good thing is not good.  Outside commitments don’t consume me, but there are many things within the home that do.  My prayer lately is for God to remind me throughout the day to focus on what’s important.  Weed out anything that is hindering my calling.  Think eternally.  Thankfully, I won’t be bringing my laundry, dishes or computer to heaven with me, but my desire is to have my family there.  That is my priority.

She shares many other tips, but another one that hit home is to lean on your husband.  Show him your schedule, talk about it, pray about it and let him lead you into what he feels is best for you.  Does she mean submit?  I so struggle with giving up control, but she tells how freeing it is when you do.  My husband knows I am a control freak.  It’s my schedule and I know what’s best, right?  I’ve slowly been learning to rely more on my husband for his valued opinion as the leader of our home.  It’s hard and I’m a work in progress.  He knows me better than anyone else on this earth and he has my best interest in mind.  So, as we sit together with schedules in hand, this wife will seek to listen to her husband’s wise thoughts.

If you would like to know how to say no and start taking back your schedule, head on over to Eternal Encouragement to purchase your own copy of Just Say No.

I am reviewing Just Say No as part of The Gabby Moms  program and did not receive compensation for this post.

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Joy Amidst Trials

Isn’t it hard to find the joy when you are in the middle of trials?  It is easy to feel down about your situation and all the while, God’s crying out, come to me.  I will give you joy.  I will give you hope.  I am all you need.  How often are my listening ears turned off to what God is saying to me!

I’ve been down and out lately, whether it’s been with sickness, mold in our home, feeling like a failure with child training…  Poor me, is what I’ve been feeling.  Then, today happened.  I played with my children.  We laughed, we ran, we had a picnic, we played with our Minnie Mouse family.  Today, God spoke to me while my listening ears were off in a different way.  He spoke to my heart through my children.

My kids asked to have a picnic for lunch today and even though my heart started out not into it, I am so thankful that I chose to spend that time with them.

After lunch, I thought, what could be more fun than having a wagon race.  So, my 2-year-old thought she’d give it a try and even though she could pull her sister, we thought the race would be better the other way around.This was much more even.  I pulled my son and the race was off.  I of course lost, but the air was filled with laughter.Then, we played freeze tag.  It was so much fun running in the yard, chasing each other, laughing.  Nap-time couldn’t come soon enough.  Mommy was worn out 🙂

Then, my oldest girl brought out her Minnie Mouses and asked if I would play with her.  I wasn’t sure what we would do since I’m a little out of practice with pretending.  Well, my other kids joined in and we each picked our mouse.  I was Homemaker Mommy Minnie, my son was Sister Skating Minnie, my 2-year-old was Sister Hawaiian Minnie, and my oldest girl was Sister Ballerina Minnie.  We had a great time pretending with our little family.

My son just kept laughing at me while I was pretending.  It was great seeing how much they were enjoying this time.What a perfect ending to our Minnie moment, a group hug.This has got to be the best photo that we’ve had in a while.  It speaks volumes on their personalities!She loved having the Hawaiian Minnie.She’s had this Minnie since she was a baby.  How special to watch her still enjoying her.Of course, he had to have a Minnie as well.  He picked Ice Skating Minnie because her dress is blue (his favorite color).  I am so thankful for these joyful moments amidst all of the turmoil that is going on right now.  My baby girl brought me joy as well.  She just happened to be sleeping when the camera came out.  Her smile warms my heart and I love the hugs that she shares with me.

My husband has been so great during this time.  He’s my rock and I am so thankful that God brought us together.  He puts up with me even during my down times and helps lift me up.

So, when life seems like it’s upside down and nothing is going right, put on those listening ears and hear God speak to you.  Look around you at the blessings He’s given you.  He will give you the joy and hope you need to endure!

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What is Love?

I used to think of Valentine’s Day as another Hallmark holiday.  Shouldn’t love be expressed all year, not just on one sought out day?  Yesterday, as my children grinned with delight over making valentines for their family, I realized how special it is to have moments set aside like this.  Yes, I think we can do this on other days during the year, and we do, but being purposeful about showing love on this day is fine, too.

So, what is love?  How do we express it?  For my oldest, love is spending time with her, admiring her craftiness and art, snapping green beans together, reading, talking, shopping, cooking…  For my son, love is praising him for a job well done, making him something special just for him, hugging and snuggling with him, telling him a story, reading to him…  For my 2-year-old, love is smiling at her, helping her, playing with her, reading to her…  For my 1-year-old, love is taking care of her, feeding her, holding her, playing with her…  For my husband, love is touch, affirmation, respect, praise…  So, love changes, but it is a choice.  It’s being purposeful to give it in a way specific for each person.  It’s focusing on showing them Jesus in how you respond to them.

I’ve had to learn through the years that it’s received differently for every person and that it is a choice to be made.  I don’t love because I feel loved.  I love because my Savior loved me and calls me to love others.

So, on today and every day, be purposeful.  Choose to love because even though we don’t ever deserve God’s love, He loves us abundantly, He loves us more than we could ever imagine!

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 ESV

   “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
    Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.  1 Corinthians 13:4-8 ESV

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